If only people knew what they wanted …
You know, most people I meet are really struggling to know what they want, and then they wonder why they get it ...
Creating a spectacular life and a great business, have to be done with intention ...
It's really hard to get where you want to go, if you don't know where it is ... here's a few hints to help you decide what it is you want in life ...
1. Decide what you DON'T want and list out the exact opposite ...
2. Think of what you enjoy, what excites you for both yourself and others ...
3. Look at pictures, magazines are the best and tear out things that you think would be great, places you'd love to go or experiences you'd love to have ...
4. Make a list of everything in your life that needs upgrading or replacing ...
5. Think of people you admire and make a list of the traits or reasons why ...
Knowing what you want, what you choose is a lot simpler than most people make it. Just aim at choosing a few things, places, events, traits, learning's or experiences to begin with and add more, at least one more every single day ...
All the Best ... Brad
www.bradsugars.com ... www.actioncoach.com ...
Isn’t it interesting, it’s so easy to look at our life and truly believe we are content as we are living it? We become so involved in our business and our personal life can be so intense, we tend to often only concentrate on what is and not dream about what can be. As a coach, I not only owe to myself to make my dreams real but to help my clients and my friends believe, sometimes the most wonderful things in life are the ones we have yet to think about.
Finding your Why, finding your Purpose for those of us who haven’t can be extremely hard, sometimes impossible. Brad’s posting, highlights a significant issue for many of us. Unfortunately the solution borders on the hackneyed.
Most civil/criminal laws are stated in the negative – specifying what you cannot do – as a opposed to the positive (what you are alowed to do) for a reason. There is a whole plethora of stuff you can do!!!
So merely thinking of the opposite of a negative frequently doesn’t wash.
I have been challenged to write my eulogy to find my purpose – again this doesn’t press my buttons as I rationalise that I would be dead so it doesn’t matter.
The motivating value of singular focus and determination in achieving life goals huge… if you have goals you truely desire. Unfortunately I don’t… I wish I did but I do not. Why?
Simple and easy to apply. Thanks Brad for reminding us to live the life of our dreams !!
Agree! It’s so important people have a vision, and a clear one that can be easily communicated and that means something. I spoke at an initiative last week called JobCAMP ONE09, a two day expo for people looking for employment AND THEY ALL LEFTSAYING THEY NEEDED A VISION, GOALS AND TO FIND THEIR PASSION… interesting indeed..
Two exercises to expand people’s minds and creativity we did were;
1. write out 101 Goals, passions, interests, past ideas, hobbies..
2. Sit and take a moment before you start your planning to consider..
THINK ABOUT WHERE YOU, YOUR BUSINESS AND THE WORLD WILL BE TOMORROW…
… NEXT WEEK, ….NEXT YEAR, ….IN 5 YEARS, ….IN 20 YEARS, ….IN 40 YEARS, ….IN 100 YEARS, ….IN 1000 YEARS…
What kind of place would you like to see for your children, grandchildren, their children?
Simple yet profound thoughts. Too often we focus on the negatives – what we DON’T want – rather than on what we do. And that negative thinking is reinforced by the majority of those we spend time with. Focus on what I DO want – and spend most of my time with those who believe in it as much as I do!
Beran
Really interested here in how you struggle or seem to from what you say with finding your “singular” focus … What makes you think you have not already found it … ? In fact, who even says it’s got to be singular. Often the search itself can lead us away from the goal or the fact that we area already there.
As for needing this to be complex and tough, most often I’ve found the simplest is the best …
Finally, the whole rationalization of each and every process, I guess the #1 thing for you is built in actually trying or doing something. Doesn’t really matter what process you use, as long as you use one.
Like anything dreams and goals are a learned skill and if you’ve read no books, attended no seminars, had no mentors or not had any time invested in either learning or doing … then it’s a struggle …
Take some time and at least give a few strategies a try …
All the best … Brad
Those who have life goals, who are passionate about them and are driven to attain them are blessed.
A life mission with passion and purpose yields motivation and is thus frequently attained.
The source of one’s why may be varied;some have it inherently, others through being competitive, materialistic, spiritual, family oriented or philanthropic in nature. Some obtain clarity from a life changing event – a birth, death, near failure/destitution, spiritual witness or crucial conversation.
What of the rest .. probably the majority? How do they find their passion if they have none of the above?
From a personal stand point my success had been based on believing I could take-on the challenge of the just the next step on the corporate ladder as opposed to a having a vision of the top of the ladder.
But what happens when the ladder goes? Am left in decent boat with much of what I need to sustain life – mediocre financial security, good knowledge and experience – but drifting aimlessly.
Those that have enduring clarity of purpose and passion probably don’t realise how blessed they are. However, I guess most of the books I have read from Napoleon Hill, Robert Greene, Stephen Covey, Jensen through Maxwell and Chopra left me reflecting whether any of them had been a perennial drifter.
I believe we do have goals we desire (Beranholt) but some of us have buried them so deeply, it’s tough to get at them. As children we all have dreams but often we’re told we’re not “smart enough”, “tall enough”, “handsome enough” etc, so we squash them. It can take some digging to pull them back up. The book “The Passion Test” can be very helpful – it’s made a difference for many folks who’ve come to my workshops!
Cheers from another Aussie!
Evelin
If you are up for trying something else – I would highly suggest Jack Canfield’s Success Principles. The first few principles are all about Purpose, Dreams, Goals. I had to read thru them a dozen times before I could unlock a purpose that I found motivating and inspirational. I spent quite a bit of my free time for 6 weeks working on this, and the result has been a phenomenal change in my life, both personally and professionally.
Just because it is hard to do doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it – that is Below the Line thinking and self-defeating. There is no need to settle for average, no need to drift aimlessly.
Best of Luck!